HOW TO OVERCOME A BREAKUP OF COUPLE

Overcome the breakdown of a relationship is not easy and it takes its time, but there are some things you can do to overcome it faster:



1 controls your thoughts. Now you tend to think of that person frequently and possibly spend enough time a day to remember it, fantasize about his return, trying to discover what went so wrong, analyze what happened, etc. I.e. you can fall into a State of obsession that makes yousuffer. As a result of what you think, your emotions can vary throughout the day. For example, you can feel sadness at the thought that thisperson is no longer in your life, feel anger at the thought that you let you, feel guilt if you think that you did something that caused the rupture, etc. Thus, depending on what you need every time, your emotionsmay be changing frequently and make you feel unsteady, as if you could control them. Here are some things you can do to control your mind (and your emotions):



-Propose you reduce everything you can while you spend thinking about your ex-partner. You will not be able to avoid arising out your memories in your mind but yes you can cut those thoughts when they appear, saying: "Enough, you don't think about them, think or do another thing" and focus your mind on something else. Do it all the times thatneeded, whenever you find yourself thinking about your ex-partner.



-A specific time spent thinking about things that you really need to think. It may have something to learn from what happened and that there are experiences that you need to process. The problem is not to think about certain things but you're not able to control your mind and those thoughts constantly arise and you prevent work or do your normallife. Therefore, propose an hour and a particular period (for example, half an hour at 9 in the evening) to think of things you want to think. Ifbefore that time they arise in your mind thoughts related to your partner, think: "now not." I think this tonight at the scheduled time"and it focuses your attention on what you're doing at that moment.



-Practice mindfulness. In addition to mindfulness meditation for a while each day, also you can live with mindfulness each time. In fact, everyone should live with mindfulness at all times because it is the best wayto keep your mind uncluttered and make the most of every moment. It's pretty straightforward. It is to focus your attention to 100% in everything you are doing, simply be, already is eating, work, clean the House, practicing a sport or any other task or activity that you do. Don't dothings with the head somewhere else, paying attention halfway or thinking about what are going to do next, or as if you were a robot on auto-pilot. Get every thing as if it were something fascinating, focusing allof your attention on every detail of what they do, using all your sensesto immerse yourself completely in such activity, feeling everything thatactivity makes you feel. When you focus your attention on something this so intensely, there is space so that your mind is full of unwanted thoughts.



-Read the following articles:



Intrusion of the mind: unwanted thoughts
Are you depressed? Change your thinking
The rational emotive therapy: how to change your thoughts
2 search for help and support from your friends. If you have a State ofdepressed mood and few wanting to leave, ask that you push, you take to the street. Let's say clearly that you need his help to get out of this.



3 keep you busy / with various hobbies, sport, work, studies, etc.



4. think (and repeat several times) that can withstand this, which is a stage, you should give yourself time to heal that wound, that you will befeeling better as time goes and you are perfectly capable of overcoming it. Remember that any breach brings with it a time of pain that wehave no choice but to accept until it fades. Repeat to yourself / a: "now pass this bad luck and I feel bad a season I have had but I can endure it until you pass".



5. do not forget that your life is made up of many things and people, that the life of a person is much more than a couple's relationship andthat all those things together give meaning to our lives. Your life is notempty to be without your ex-partner because it is full of many other things (everything with what you decide to fill it every day).